The reality of what it’s like actually “adulting” and what I have learned being away from my family
Moving Away From Home
I decided to move to NYC upon getting accepted into the AAS program at Parsons for Fashion Marketing. That was in November. Fast forward 2 months and I moved across the country to where I have wanted to live since I was a little girl. Monday marked 3 weeks since my official move to the East Coast. I lived with my parents back home in LA and was reasonably spoiled by my mom buying me my favorite groceries, washing my dirty laundry, and keeping everything else in tact.
What changes when you move out?
Literally everything (besides maybe your favorite shampoo). I didn’t realize moving was such a big deal until I was lugging over 100 pounds on a luggage cart in my building during the third day. Aside from the actual act of moving in, tons of responsibilities come with renting an apartment in NYC. I have to buy groceries, toiletries, and cleaning supplies. Even though my place is just under 600 square feet, it somehow collects a ton of dust so I am constantly dusting and sweeping my wood floors. It’s so annoying, any suggestions? I’ve been getting my groceries delivered through Instacart, which is amazing because you pay a yearly fee that literally equals half the amount of money spent on Ubers to and from the grocery store. If you’re a one bag shopper, this app is probably not for you, but if you’re like me and want to go on a shopping spree at Whole Foods, then I highly recommend it. Your food gets delivered in 2 hour windows that you can schedule as soon as the night before. If you are thinking of downloading the app, use the code JFRIEDMAN2C212D for $10 off and your first delivery free. I love to cook at home, but hate doing the dishes so I made sure my place had a dishwasher! Another major change for me is not having a car. It’s both a blessing and a curse. I love walking everywhere (when it’s not freezing), but I don’t walk alone at night or when I go out so Ubers tend to add up. I guess monthly payments to Uber are cheaper than a car payment plus your insurance so it balances out. Lastly, I miss seeing my family and my dog every morning. It’s been an adjustment, but I’m making the most of it!
What I’ve learned about myself?
I’m learning to enjoy my time alone and take this time as a chance to get to know myself better. If you didn’t know, I am twenty years old and have a strong sense of self. I’ve been working since I was 14 a and recently ended a relationship that lasted over 4 years. I don’t know what being single was like until now. It’s been about six months since the break up and I am just trying to embrace my alone time. I go to workout classes alone, go on walks alone, and even Netflix and chill alone. I also really enjoy cooking which I find to be therapeutic. Even the cleaning of the dishes is therapeutic for me. Doing laundry isn’t so bad either. I find comfort in knowing I can take care of myself completely. I also have learned that I can’t keep chips or any moderately unhealthy snack in my pantry or I will literally eat the entire bag/box while binge watching Shameless. Last night I ate a whole bag of those Snack Pea Crisps, (sorry, not sorry) they are so good. So I’ve decided to take this time to take risks, understand and communicate my feelings better, and go with the flow. We’ll see how this goes!